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I Am A Rock – Myths About Asking for Help

WordPress daily writing prompt: Is it easy for you to ask for help when you need it, or do you prefer to rely only on yourself? Why? Click here (I am a rock) to read other interpretations of today’s prompt.

I am a rock, I know that. There have been many times that I have relied solely on myself to get something done. It is much more fun though, to work with and through other people. I learn something new every time I do this.

The other side of the coin of being a rock, is the proverbial “no man/woman is an island”. I know I am not an island, and I have no issue with asking for help. Or with others asking for help.

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A to Z Challenge: X is for X-Men of Public Speaking

Try and find a word starting with an “x” to do with public speaking and…well…not easy! At the time of compiling the editorial calendar for this challenge I had just watched X-Men: Days of Future Past and an idea struck.

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#weekendcoffeeshare: Letting the cards fall…

001COFFEECUPIt’s rainy and overcast, definitely weather for cosying up indoors, so no outdoors coffee today. If we were having coffee we’d have the customary comment about the weather but only a few minutes, because there’s lots of exciting things to talk about.

First off…major excitement about the Jazz next weekend. I want to get all the packing done early this week instead of rushing around late into the night on Thursday (and often the early hours of Friday) to get this done. With all the travel I’ve done both for work and for pleasure, I have it down to a few items of clothing. I have a mental list and I have doubles of toiletries and make up, so it’s just a question of grabbing the toiletry bag and putting it into the suitcase.


If we were having coffee, I’d be animatedly telling you about the theme for the A to Z Challenge. It’s changed a few times in the last week and I finally settled on one that I am passionate about. So, the editorial calendar I told you about last week… has changed. There’s a new one!


If we were having  coffee I’d tell you that I went to a toastmasters meeting on Thursday, the first in many months. And as it’s been happening every time I visit Alberton Toastmasters and because they don’t often see me, I got picked on to do an impromptu speech. This is a 1 to 2 minute speech on a word or topic that you get given when you get called up to the lectern. I used to hate these until I realised that I didn’t need to talk about the word or topic in its literal sense. So often I take it to the abstract realm.

The topic given was “My life would be empty if…”. I kept it light and said that my life would be empty if I didn’t have my iPhone and this blog. Haha, go figure 🙂

Well actually my life would be empty if I didn’t have my family, health and freedom. To talk about each one of those would make this a deep conversation and I want to keep it light.


If we were having coffee, I will say is that this year has felt like one long frustrating wait for something.  The learning I’m taking from this frustration is to try not to control everything, throw the cards up into the air and see where they fall.  Let’s see what will be revealed… It does feel, though, that things are coming together.


If we were having coffee I’d share the quote that made me stop and think this week, by Linda Rottenberg:

At some point I started to realise that my challenges as a leader were really more internal.”  

I know this…but recently I’ve forgotten it. It’s enough for me to ponder on this for now because the alternative is to start coming up with solutions. For now I just want to see where the cards fall.

Didn’t I say that there were lots of exciting things to talk about? This has all of a sudden become serious, so I will end it here for this week.

Thanks for making it this far. Have a great week!

(This conversational coffee post is part of a weekend link-up hosted by Part-Time Monster. Join in the fun!)



Let It Be

Everyone wants to make their mark and be noticed for it, like claiming possession of something, even if only temporarily.

I associate this with the English idiomatic expression that says “A new broom sweeps clean.” This expression is quite old – it was used by Shakespeare.

It’s all very subjective off course – if one asks the people who were there already they’ll tell you that things were clean already. The new person comes in and wants to make clean because they see it from a different perspective.

Sometimes things need to be cleaned up. And sometimes they don’t. The key is to acknowledge this and change only what needs changing, and not change something because it’s expected, or because they don’t understand it.

Someone new can make great changes because they have a new perspective, but experience is also valuable.

There is an extension to this saying, “Yes, a new broom sweeps clean, but the old one knows the corners.”

Sometime’s it’s better to just let it be.

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How to take control of a room full of people – the best toastmasters advice I’ve ever received.

I was day chairman at a regional conference sometime ago, having to deal with a very rowdy crowd of toastmasters. After the morning tea break, the 500 or so people ambled into the hall, talking animately and generally taking their time about sitting for the next part of the program.

I used the gavel to not very good effect. The more I banged on the lectern the noisier the crowd became, raising their voices over the banging. They eventually settled down and I had to work extra hard at clawing back lost time to get everyone to the sit down lunch on time.

As I removed the lapel mic a very senior toastmaster in terms of tenure came up to me and said this:

“Regina, when people return to their seats after lunch, just stand in the centre of the stage and say nothing. This gets people’s attention faster than trying to shout over the voices and telling them what to do. You will show assertiveness by taking control of room in a quiet manner.”

After lunch I did just that – and as if by magic, the chattering died down quickly and people took their seats, looking at me in anticipation of the next part of the programme.